Musnad Abu Ya'la al-Mawsili 154:51

Zuhayr narrated to us, 'Abdah narrated to us, from Hisham, from his father, from Ibn 'Umar, from the Prophet (peace be upon him), who said: "Indeed, the deceased is punished because of his family's weeping over him." I mentioned that to 'A'ishah, and she said: "Does Ibn 'Umar mean that? The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) only passed by a grave and said: 'Indeed, the occupant of this grave is being punished, while his family is weeping over him.'" Then she recited this verse: "And no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another."