Musnad Abu Ya'la al-Mawsili 2:40

Al-Qawariri narrated to us, Yazid bin Zuray' narrated to us, Sa'id bin Abi 'Aruba narrated to us, from Qatadah, from Sa'id bin al-Musayyib, from Ibn 'Umar, from 'Umar, from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), who said: "Indeed, the deceased is punished in his grave for what is wailed over him, or for what is wept over him."